This is a topic I have been wanting to write about for quite some time, but I just couldn't find the right way to say it without sounding like I am attacking everyone in todays society. The truth is our society is progressing further and further down a rabbit hole of making the bare minimum efforts when it comes to the things in life we used to place more value in.
I was recently talking to my friends and the topic came up of how long should people wait to have sex? In the not so distant past the answer use to be wait for marriage, but today that question got answers that varied from when I feel like it (and it could be date 1) to after so many dates to when I feel valued. No one said wait until marriage lol. Even tho I am not promoting waiting until marriage there has to be a sacrifice made to get a woman to have sex. If it is easy, it's not valuable and if it is difficult to get most guys just won't make the sacrifice.
There has to be a correction to todays dating scene to where things have value and people have to sacrifice to get them. Not all girls are worth the sacrifice, but the good ones are. Just like buying a nice car, you have to work for it and sacrifice. That sacrifice could be in making efforts and making the girl feel valued. We all know when some one places value in you that they will give you time. Time is one of the best ways to see how much some one values you.
The valuable things in life come with a sacrifice, thats why they have value. The more sacrfice the greater the value and usually the rarer they are. If you see someone with something nice you know it took a sacrifice to get it. We say we want high value, but are we willing to scarifice for it and it we are how much sacrifice will we make before we say its not worth it? Jay Shetty says when it comes to love we have confused inconsistency with excitement and we have confused stability and consistency with boredom. We are confused about what we truly value.
Let me say it this way, there is always a price to pay. You work hard up front for quality and value or you pay a price at the end for not making the sacrifice. Here is an example......
If you don't put the the time in and sacrifice around working out, eating right and taking care of your body you will pay a price later in life. Like Steve Jobs said on his death bed if you don't eat your food today as medicine (healthy, organic, nutrient rich etc), your medicine will become your food (you will be taking drugs for all your ailments). Great words of advice.
So lets get back to sacrifice......
We sacrifice based on how much value we place in something. We will sacrifice for what we truly place value in. We will scarifice for loved ones or family, we sacrifice to build a future, we sacrifice short term pleasure for long term gratification. The problem is we don't value things the same anymore. In dating we don't value waiting to have sex, we dont value building a freindship first, we dont value the hard work to build a relationship together and we pay the price with failed relationships, high body counts and desensitzed people who have lost the true value of the opposite sex. You can call me old fashion although i will disagree, but I am a person who stands firm on the proposition of valuing things.
In my most recent trip to Cost Rica i was introduced to PURA VIDA. It is more than words its is a way of life. I have learned to place greater value in things we take for granted. I saw the most beautiful sunsets and sunrises. I appreciated the culture and the natural beauty in things. I saw the stars and the rain forest and although they could be considered boring, by placing more value in them it gave me a feeling of gratitude to be able to experience them because they were valuable.
If you ask me the ability to value is one of the biggest loses we have had in our time. If we don't know how to value then how do we determine what is worth fighting for and sacrificng for?
I know a person who always places value in others even if they look like they have no value. I have made this part of how I live now placing more value in others. As humans we all have intrinsic value and when someone sees that value in you and will sacrifice for you, it is the greatest love of all.