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Building Character.....

By Eri Anton


I wanted to write a blog about personal growth and regression. I speak to people all the time about life and have recently done a lot of study on human behavior. I speak directly and honestly, but have always been very critical on people’s thoughts and actions, especially those who are close to me that I care about. When I talk to people about their behavior, people will tell me to relax, don't judge me, I am just having a good time. They will also use lines like "society says" and "I don't believe that", however in the end they are excuses to justify superficial behaviors they think are fun. I remind them that it is so easy to not pay attention to behaviors and actions that are not good for you by de-minimizing them until you realize you have become the very thing you despise.

There is a good quote that says……..

“Watch your thoughts, they become your words; watch your words, they become your actions; watch your actions, they become your habits; watch your habits, they become your character; watch your character, it becomes your destiny.”
Lao Tzu

If you think that you can practice bad things in life and it will not become part of who you are, you are kidding yourself. The same goes about putting good things into your life. Whether we see the immediate value or not over time it will become who you are.

Life has a funny way of taking everything invest into it and giving it back to you ten fold. You reap what you sow and when you do good things they also will come back to you in life.

That is why we should be selective of who we have in our life, who we listen to and truly know what we want out of life. When you know what you want you can make the appropriate decisions and take the proper actions to insure your thoughts do become your destiny. No one lives their life to be a failure, they hope that along the way of living life things just work out. The problem is that if you are not constantly assessing all aspects of your life and making decisions that will impact your life the way you want, you will end up ship wrecked somewhere you never wanted to be, doing something you never thought you would do.

Feed yourself positive thoughts, speak the truth and make sure your actions and behavior truly bring something of value. Remove people from your life who drain you and fill your life with people who want to help you grow and learn.

In the end it is all about how you think. If you think right and make the proper decisions you will become the person you were destined to be. We all want to get the most out of life and not settle for a life of mediocrity. So surround yourself with people of value and remove the negative influences, change your thought process and behaviors to align with what you want in life. Life is all a matter of perspective so choose carefully knowing that everything you think, say and do will eventually become who you are.